Call it defeatism or enlightenment (or maybe both), but I am no longer treating my sex life as looking a gift horse in the mouth. All I can do is change my attitudes and try to lower the importance of sex in my life if I have any hope of true happiness.
Yeah, I kind of tried that too, but it didnt' work for me. Perhaps it's different in your case, or for women in general. But in my case, trying to ignore my sex drive and not doing any long-term planning for appropriate outlets just led to even higher and more intense levels of sexual desire and fantatizing and less "appropriate" activities.
That is, if you're anything like me, after years of seemingly successfully sublimating your sexual desires, you'll one day run into somebody or a situation where your closeted pent-up sexual desires come to the forefront with vengeance!
