What a tough week it's been for me. Got a barrage of emails from STBX trying to push my buttons and fight with me. It's been hard not to get provoked. How lovely that he wished me a wonderful weekend.
Then, OWXH sends me another email thru FB letting me know that STBX and OW are going to get married and he wished me a happy v day. I checked into my settings on FB and finally blocked him. I thought I had those privacy settings done right... now I do. Don't need to know that stuff from him and he's only poisoning me. Who knows if OW said that to him to get to him. Ick. I'm worried that if I send him a message saying to no longer contact me, it might lead to another message from him. Might have my L send him a letter.
On top of all this my dad is mad at me over me telling him to back off of telling D13 how to respond to her dad. So now he's not talking to me. I had to protect her from being pushed to fight with him and tell her dad off. She still needs to respect him simply because he is her dad. I don't want any more trouble anyhow as he is accusing me of alienating "his" kids. I did respond saying he's doing it all by himself with his behavior.
I'm having a hard time dealing with what should happen with kids and STBX. He's being an immature jerk with them and fighting with them. He keeps threatening them saying they are getting me in trouble with the court. He now told D13 he is taking her horse away and will make her go to public school instead of parochial school "because she disrespected him and is ungrateful". I wrote him to stop threatening her... played into his hands I guess. I also told him he will have to pay child support. Tells me happy job hunting! He is in such a fighting and controlling mood.
I did have the kids TM their dad happy v day and for D to say sorry for disrespecting him. She had hung up on him as he was yelling at her and told him he was a very mean man. He really flipped out over that. I'm just wanting for them to give him respect just for his position as their father.
It's just ugly. In a sense I feel the kids need to DB him as their dad to keep their relationship going. I think it will keep things from getting uglier and from him turning on me if they get along better.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
I checked into my settings on FB and finally blocked him. I thought I had those privacy settings done right... now I do. Don't need to know that stuff from him and he's only poisoning me. Who knows if OW said that to him to get to him. Ick. I'm worried that if I send him a message saying to no longer contact me, it might lead to another message from him. 
