Today will no doubt be a bit rough. I was wondering Cesco, if SHE wanted out, why did she give you the divorce b book?
It seems to me that she might be saying what I said to my W of 11 yrs: I can't imagine life this way till death and beyond, but I think it doesn't have to be this way either.
In the end, I essentially forced my W to go for counselling. To prove that I also understood our M was my 'fault', too, I've been going. Her counselling starts (finally) next week, but who knows what will happen. It is possible your W is afraid that in IC she'll feel like giving up as she goes through problems she has with you.
Either way, as sgctxok/others on your old post are hinting at, you might be making things very hard to repair by letting your emotions run you. PERHAPS, just perhaps, this is what your W is talking about being wrong in your M.
I highly suggest you get yourself out of R talks with your W, and get yourself to a IC. Book in 3 sessions or more this month, plan for the long haul. A divorce costs a lot more than counselling...
I'm saying this knowing my M might not be savable, and that I am driving this process more than my W. Still, I'm committed for me, for my kids, and lastly for my W, to try to make a R with her. That means a better me. That also means (for me) I need a better her. That can't happen by reacting to my emotions - not that I don't, but I'm learning to curb and control my reactions...to make them responses.
I hope this post helps you. If you get it today, WHY NOT buy a present and flowers. It CANNOT hurt to do it, I think, because you just started the D process.
