Soaring Solo 2010

[ClingingToHope]

Yes. We can't go back. You live and learn. I knew about DB but didn't commit until I'd been separated four months.

The big thing I'll always wonder about is if I'd been reading DB would I have moved out or forced her to.

I had solid reasons. I felt like she had been daring/baiting me to leave for three years and I thought after I left she'd see how much I contributed to her life in terms of help with the house, financially and with the girls.

In that respect, everything worked just like I thought. She's broke, she spends much of her off-time from the girls cleaning and the girls ask her all the time when or if daddy is coming home.

But she's determined to be miserable on her own terms than try to rebuild things where compromise is part of the game. She truly is becoming her mother.

Funny question I mass toss out on my forum. I met a lady last night and I think we hit it off. Lots of eye contact. I was across the table from her and it was loud so we couldn't talk directly enough. I talked to her friend a lot too -- not to make it too obvious.

The lady I'm interested in is going through her second divorce and has kids my age.

So what are modern rules on something like this. We're both still married so I don't think it's appropriate to just call her up and ask her out. She is on FaceBook -- I got her last name before she left. I was considering just sending her a friend invite and saying it was great to meet her.

And then maybe build things from there.

Thoughts?