H wants to talk tomorrow! Please advise.

[mishka422]

Ok, in your mind working on the M means pulling out all the stops, going to C, spending time. Like GIMA said, you have already told him you want to work on the M. You made your position clear and pushing any further detail on him at this point would be a pursuing behavior. He's running scared.....let him run until he jerks his choke collar! He will have to see that no matter how far he runs, he won't be able to get away from the real problem.....himself.

The comments he has made to you sounds like he has some depression. He is going to have to explore that for himself and you being a safe landing place for him won't force him to do that.

Let him talk tomorrow. Interject nothing. Make supportive comments such as "I'm sorry you feel that way." and "I understand." If you truly don't understand something he says, mirror it back to him, "I hear you say that you are not sure that you still love me or know what love is supposed to feel like, is that right?" Then let him extrapolate on that idea. This talk is all about him right now, let him own his decisions. That is the only way he will feel the consequences of them.

I haven't read any of your other posts so I don't know your back story. Could you share with me how long have you been together and M'd? Any kids?