MSH, Thanks for the thoughts. I agree with everything.
However, to be honest, right now I do not care if I look bad (in her eyes). I just need to shut down the R, and give myself as much space as possible. I feel like I have put up with enough. She has really shown her true colors and it is someone I do not want to be around, at all! I have not been mean but very distance.
I have to think long term so I do not damage our ability to work together and raise the kids (although she has already disregarded me in this matter) but I also need to be able to look at myself in the mirror and stand up for what I beleive in. What she has done is very wrong and I am not going to pretend anymore like it is not.
