For me, it is more like the janitor (who cleans up a mess) walking around the school on the last day locking up.
You see an tired old man (as we all become in our sitches) walking down a hallway with a large ring of keys. He spends 10 minutes at each door trying key after key after key, until he finds one that works. It may take him the entire summer to lock all the doors, and at summers end, to turn around and stand at each door for 10 minutes trying each key over and over again until he finds the one that unlocks it.
He does this because he has not taken care of the master key and can not identify it from the others. He just does not know where to start.
Our M's are similar. The WAS spends days, weeks, months and sometimes years locking the doors to the MR. They think they are done and toss the keys.
The LBS picks up the keys and desparately wants to unlock the doors and get back in. They can not identify the master key, so they (we) just start with the closest one.... and it will take time to find the right key....
When we find a key that works, we try it in the next door....
That's the sayin'... try what works... if it doesn't try something else.
Britt had to turn each key... she had to open many doors to find H and to find herself.... evenually she rolled up on the master key. No doors are locked for her now.
The rest of us.... yes, we all have the key.... but which one is it?
I know for some it may feel like a never ending battle. The WAS has kept the master key. The LBS has the ring of keys and everytime you open door, the WAS feels the draft and runs right behind you and locks it right back up.
Maybe Britt did not have the key at all... maybe she just slowly lifted it off its hinges so that it could never be close or lock again.
Does it really matter..... I am just happy for her....
Just my weird thought process responding with little rest...
Love ya PDT
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