Hopeless feelings

[flowmom]

That's kind of a wierd situation, because your defensiveness (because you would have done it if you could have) came through in repeatedly trying to phone him and responding to many of his texts initially to protest your innocence. You and your H were really locked in a push-pull about a situation that involved you only indirectly. I wonder if saying "oh, I'm glad someone did that...saves me the bother" might have gotten your POV across more efficiently and been a more transparent response? I know we're dissecting in hindsight though, and I know that my adrenaline really gets pumping when I feel in conflict with H these days.