Thank you everyone. Allen, that is almost word for word what I was pondering in my head. I wanted to post some of the texts that he sent me, most of which I didn't respond:

H: I'm pissed today cuz of the letter. We where starting to work things out and now u pull this. Then u sent her dad a letter

Me: WT#$^# are you talking about? - then I tried to call him with no answer

H:We stopped talking and then today she tells me her dad got a letter saying we r having an affair. It also said HIS MOMS NAME. So u sent my mom one.

I tried to call again, and still no answer

H: Don't call me! I'm done.

Me: I don't know what your talking about. I'm sick of being blamed for stuff I didn't do, I'm done.

H:Who else wood do that

Me: I don't know, and I don't care. This is your mess and I'm not taking the blame. Don't text me anymore.

This is when he called me, and I answered. I yelled and told him to leave me alone and that I wanted no part of his drama anymore. Towards the end of the conversation is when he told me he believed me, and was sorry. I said I don't care and hung up.

H: I'm sorry - no reply

H: Can I come talk to u
Me: NO

H:I'm sorry. forgive me I over reacted - no reply

H: We where on our way to working it out and this time I messed up - no reply

H: So does this mean ur done with me
Me: I need time alone right now. I'm sick of being treated like #$%^^

H: I understand I messed up. Let me know when u want to talk.

This is pretty much where it is right now.


Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10