My Story...grass is greener (pt 2)

[mza8]

I dont know why or how she thinks I could ruin things for her...I mean at 41 he knows he's got a good thing by having a 26 year old to have sex with and parade around town...and from the way my ex is talking, she's seeing dollar signs and a higher quality of life.

Ruin what? A dream with this other guy that doesn't exist? If he wanted to be with her, he would be footing the bill for the divorce right now. Is he? Doesn't seem that way...

Don't be a fool about this. A 41 year old man isn't seeing a good thing when he's seeing a 26 year old. He's seeing himself get older and pudgier. He's not seeing your wife as a good thing - she could be anybody. The only thing he's seeing is himself as Peter Pan and not growing up.

And don't be fooled by your wife's interpretation. If she thinks that she's going to get a higher quality of life, just ask him how many other under-30 year old ladies he's been with. If he's good with money....well, think about it. It won't go to her.

You are looking at through her point of view. Pull back and look at it as what it is - a sad middle aged guy going after a married woman with a kid. That's not hot...it's convenient.

knittedscarf, I like your point of view. Very good observation.

nsw, listen to this and try to keep things in perspective. This 41 year old guy will not be around forever, trust me. Pretty sad behavior for a 41 year old man. Not much of a man if you ask me. This guy sounds like HE has serious issues in his own life and should think about getting his own act together instead of preying on a 26 year old woman with a child. My 2 cents.