The tunnel of darkness

[kjensen]

So, I'd like some opinions on my H's response to my email..

Here's the end of mine to him:

I feel sad that you are so angry with me. I feel you must see me through a very negative perspective and I'm not sure what I have done to cause that. I hope that changes someday so that we can be more comfortable around each other. We can always discuss this stuff with a mediator, if needed, but I was hoping that some things could be worked out between us.

I hope the rest of your weekend is good.

Here's his response(to which I am NOT responding):

You really don't understand...

I'm not angry with you. Just don't know how to deal with you anymore. It's best (for me certainly) to have someone else take care of it. I am not an attorney, nor do I know all of the legal issues. I don't even know where each of us stands or wants. The few things I have heard from you (like kids living with you for 9 months and then me for 3) simply offend me. I can't believe you honestly think that is best for anyone.

I simply want to move on with my life and regain being a father to my children. If left directly to just us, one or both of us would have spent years feeling they were taken advantage of. Hopefully now, we can do things fairly and equitably. You, me, and our kids, all deserve that.

Thanks.

Let me say I don't know where he got the 9 months/3 months idea.

My question to all is...is the "I don't know how to deal with you" a MLC 'script? Has anyone else's spouse said that? I think H said that with our first separation and once he asked me for a divorce last May he also started sharing with me and we had no problem 'dealing'.

Since H moved out/filed for divorce I have kept pretty dim-not initiating contact unless needed regarding the kids. Where in the past H would contact me after a bit...this time he really hasn't. The closest we had to a chat was on FB last week.

I'm not trying to read H's mind..just wondering/having self-doubt ..?am I hard to deal with? or could this be a MLC-kind of response. I sometimes have bad timing, but I'm fairly thoughtful, I think, in how I state things or ask things.

Just wondering..