I understand completely. The whole cake eating thing is so frustrating. I hope that someday I can spend time with XH and have it feel like "nothingship" for me. Some days it does feel like that and some days it feels like a set back. The kids always love it, though...our mediator said IF you can do it, its great for the kids. But if it takes your focus off them and makes you unhappy, then don't do it.
