Sorry you find yourself here, but this place can offer you great support to deal with the craziness of MLC.
To answer your last comment, if he is in MLC, then yes absolutely he is hurting inside. They are a real mess. My H has for the most part acted like he was great,enjoying his "single" life, etc., but he has opened up to me on occasion and what he has shared is really horrible. Very deep, dark hurt and pain. Now he has moved into a phase where he is visibly depressed most of the time, looks older, doesn't look good. Depression is underlying the whole MLC whether they show it or not.
And the shopping thing? Common in MLC. Watch bank accounts, credit cards, etc. Protect yourself because MLCers can spend without care.
