At some point, you have to realize that having a high sexual desire is a gift to be enjoyed, not an abnormality for which a psychological pathology is required as an explanation. And if you have a partner who isn't interested, you pay a price for having that "gift" or great capacity for sexual enjoyment.
Absolutely!
lol!! That's what I *used to* think. noone has jumped on the fact that I reference being on this board before (there's a whole very interesting thread from 2007). Call it defeatism or enlightenment (or maybe both), but I am no longer treating my sex life as looking a gift horse in the mouth. All I can do is change my attitudes and try to lower the importance of sex in my life if I have any hope of true happiness.
I really do appreciate the validation, however.
yah, I'll check out the book you mention.
Ps: interesting personal examination - last time I was evaluating my ssm on these forums, my husband was switching employment. He is switching work roles now too. Seems that the sex issue is amplified when money becomes a focus. As in, maybe my tolerance for the lack of frequency is greatly diminished when other needs are put in potential jeopardy? I am extremely supportive and helpful in job searches, however.
Met/Sex: 3/93, married 2000 HD ME: 38 (Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon) LD HE: 37 (Cancer Sun & Moon) DD: 8.5, DS: 7 Intimate 2x/lunar cycle before cutting self off in attempt to change behavior pattern
