#2: WAH separated from us & I'm on the DBing path

[flowmom]

Newmama, I think I understand what you mean about an order of progression. I guess I listed them more as: any of these would represent progress.

For your mini-goals, are you making the situations possible for them to happen?

I hope so? I'll continue doing what I've posted above.

I want my H's eyes to fill with tears less often when he sees me or we visit.

But that's just a wish! Not a goal I can help with!

I wish that MD-W had used different terminology, but I think she would call the above a goal, meaning that you would know that what you're doing is working and that your approach is leading to progress. Though I see the tears as positive. It means he is feeling vulnerable, and that seeing you is triggering feelings in him.

Flowmom, my H and I are supposedly at uncertainty (stuck where you want to be). I get talked to more than the bare minimum now, but there's still little stated curiosity about me or my life. H4L is back in MC and there seems to be little stated curiosity about her life from her H either (if I'm not misquoting her). Also, there seems to be suspicion about my GAL even though I thought I was being transparent. A lot of stuff seems to be getting projected on me. I'm just suggesting that where you want to get to won't look exactly like you think it will when and if you get there. Good luck.

Yeah. The goals in DR are supposed to be something that you would see in 1-2 weeks, and I think that the goals that I have would be a lot further off than that if they happened. Any suggestions about how to break it down into something that might realistically occur in 1-2 weeks?