so after all the shinnanigins of last night, spoke to son today and he said that dad was okay with him when he took him back out, he said dad did actually apologise to him and said it was all his fault and that he didnt blame son in any way shape or form, he was sorry that he hadnt realised son was so shy and sensitive and also sorry that he has hurt him so much. wow thats a first also ex saying sorry, hasnt said it in five years nowhere near. also forgot to say last night ex called me by my old name he used to call me and actually slipped up and called me love. I dont know anymore I dont know if hes coming to his senses or if hes still way out to lunch, but so long as son is ok that is my main worry, ex will have to sort things out for himself. x