Can someone help me with mini-goals in my M?

Here are some mini-goals that I've achieved in the past couple of weeks since the separation:
  • H hasn't mentioned divorce or mediation or the coparenting plan in a couple of weeks.
  • H has started talking more than the bare minimum to me...occasionally tells me about things that happened with the kids
  • H has told me about some future plans, to be considerate as a coparent
  • H has disclosed a couple of personal things (work, sleeplessness)


Not reassuring:
  • mentioning dating (trigger by my setting a boundary around honesty)
  • continuing to systematically remove items from our home


Mini-goals:
  • H comments on any change that I've made
  • H touches me in any way
  • H mentions the future in a way that indicates uncertainty (not as if the D is a done deal)
  • H indicates any curiosity about my state of mind
  • H initiates any activity that would involve us being together as a family

Any suggestions/refinements?

In case you're wondering, I'm working on GAL goals too.

Last edited by flowmom; 02/13/10 05:03 PM.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4
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