He's obviously very unstable. But I think if he would get on medications again and if he begins DBT he will be ok. I know he's in pain and that hurts me greatly because I wish I could take that pain away. I have set bounderies to protect myself. We didn't talk at all since 1/7/10 until Sat 2/7/10 that he stopped by to get his stuff.
He sent me a text at 10:15AM to please leave the house by 10:30AM to make it easier for everyone. Obviously with kids that couldn't happen, it was too short of a notice. I told him I would start getting ready and could leave by 11. He said "ok, we will be there at 11 exactly". He got here and I was still here. Without me saying a word he came up to me and told me "I'm not here to talk to you, you shouldn't be here". I was confussed since I hadn't said a word and just replied "I'm not talking to you, you are". I asked him what he was going to take but he refused to talk to me. Just replied "what ever I bought". I said fine and left the house, I'm not about to stay there and let him be mean to me.
I got home later that night and he had left a lot of his stuff. I sent him a text telling me to please tell me in ADVANCE when he would stop by for the rest of his stuff. I thought it was weird he left so much since he had a big Uhaul. Weird.
I hadn't called him or texted him since the 7th when he left. I did not want him to be mean to me. I don't feel I deserve that. He knows he's Bi-Polar, I don't understand why he couldn't just be honest and told me the diagnosis was correct. This way I could of had a better idea what I had to do to be able to understand him and learned some key tools to make the relationship work. Instead he got mad at me for not understanding.
I decided to send him a short email. This is just to let him know I am here for him. Let me know what you think:
Hi (name),
When I saw you yesterday I got very worried because you had lost a lot of weight and looked very on edge. I've kept my distance as you've requested but after seeing you yesterday I really needed to share my thoughts with you today.
I understand you feel hurt and I'm sorry you feel this way. It's probably not easy having to deal with extreme emotions and not being able to calm them down. It's been a very difficult time for both of us. But I wanted to make sure you knew that no matter what I still love you, my love for you hasn't changed, I'm still here. Everyday I think about you and miss you with all my heart.
I don't expect a response. I just wanted to share my thoughts.
Colombian Chick
So I sent him that and basically left the ball on his court. I mentioned the extreme emotions because he had mentioned to me before that he felt a lot stronger emotions than I did. But at least if he's going through a mania phase he can remember that I sent it. He can't say that I left him.
