she gets back in town and i'm keeping everything short and sweet, not starting conversations. I did not call at all when she was away, avoided her calls and emails, only responding hours later. She says "should i leave? it seems like you are trying not to talk to me." I say "nothing wrong, i'm a little tired."
Cannon,
Here's a clue:
Not responding to texts right away, claiming you were "busy" (always a better reason than "tired," btw), shouldn't be a technique, or a tactic.
You should actually BE busy, if you are indeed going about the GAL things and making the self-improvements that you need to be making.
In other words, this will become more natural to you when you stop focusing on your wife, and focusing on yourself.
