I just read the thread and nothing I said will change. I can add in some other things.
Cutterbug said that NC is not equal to same bed. Not sure I totally agree but maybe. I was NC with my W for almost 6 months and we slept in the same bed at opposite sides. My timeline for my sich is VERY SHORT!!! Understand that whatever it is that you are going to do it is not going to be a quick fix. Quick fix is Divorce, goodbye, see ya later. Staying married is very hard work with maybe no visible results for months, maybe years, maybe longer. You have to decide what you want and then start to work towards that goal. No magic buttons, no tricks. If that is what your looking for it doesn't exist.
You tell us what you want we will try to help YOU reach your goal. Suggestion don't say anything or do anything with your W until you post it here and get some advice. Wait 24-48 hours, you are in no rush to do anything. Unless you are in a rush to get divorced.
Ok I will let some other people swing 2x4's at you. Try to pick one of these 2 threads to use and let the other one go.
