So the respodnent has told me through email that the reason she never responded to my requests about the holidays is because she wanted to speak to me in person. She wants us to attend co-parenting counseling in order to resolve the holiday issue.
A little backgound in case you don't know:
-Back in October she and I went to a mediator to work out a holiday schedule for us and the little men. -we agreed on some holidays, but not all -the issues we did not agree on were dealt with by the mediator, after considering both our wishes. -in the end a holiday schedule was adopted and agreed upon by both of us. -if we were to make any changes to that holiday schedule we would both have to agree to it in writing and sign the agreed upon change.
So initially the Thanksgiving Holiday would have been just that day and the little men would return to the parent that would have normally had them that weekend on Friday. Later, both the respondent and I agreed that that holiday should be the whole four day weekend. So, she took them for the whole weekend telling me that she would sign an agrremnt letter, but never actually did. Then the Martin Luther King holday came up last month and the little men were to be with me. unfortunately I read the agreement incorrectly and apparently she did as well and the little men stayed with her for the entire weekend. In order to resolve the issue I proposed to her that we simply make an agreement to exchange my year with them with hers.
She never respnded and now tells me that the reason she didn't respond is because,"I understand you would like to know about MLK. I would prefer to talk to you about it in person which is why I was wondering if you had contacted the co parenting counselor. I'm just not sure if it is a holiday worth messing the kids schedule up over. If we had read the report correctly the kids would have had their schedule changed a lot to accommodate it and I just don't know if it is a holiday that is worth doing that for. That is what I wanted to discuss with you."
More background on that statement: She had come up with this idea during mediation that if one parent were to have to give up a holiday weekend due to the fact that the little men were to be with the other parent, the days that parent lost would have to be made up. Now the mediator and I thought this was an incredibly difficult way of dealing with the scenereo logistically, but in the end the respondents idea was adopted. Now what I think is happening is the repodent once again wants to change all the ideas she came up with. As welll as abolish an agreed upon holiday. I just don't get it, as well as the fact that she wants me to pay money I don't have so that these issues can be worked out with a co-parenting counselor.
It's important to understand that I have had to borrow nearly 15 thousand dollers from my father and still owe my lawyer another 5 thousand dollers to deal with my divorce and portect my rights as a father. I make less than a thousand dollers a month, she doesn't and hasn't payed me the court ordered family support and now refuses to communicate with me except through a co-parenting counselor. I am truly at a loss!!!!!!!
My father told me last week that he would no longer lend me anymore money.
I just don't know what the hell to do anymore. I feel like I just can't get my head above water and she just wants to drag me down deeper.
