But interesting how you GALed and distracted yourself and he came back!But no other boyfriends during that time?
I had 4 or 5 (not sure about chronology, LOL) "interludes" in 2 years (those were the days!) ...friendly, sexual "flings" that didn't last too long. They were great guys, but they weren't men who rocked me to my core like H did. H knew about them and it bothered him, even though his R was much more intense on every level. But he was the one who wanted an open R with me and I figured that what's good for the gander is good for the goose. I don't think I could have done it if I hadn't had my own flings... They gave me a boost and were a good reminder of my attractiveness to men. H was really preoccupied with himself during that time (probably due to grief), and I think that my flings shocked him out of taking me for granted or seeing me as a doormat. At the time I was aware that other men found me attractive, and I had fun times with them (even when we weren't having sex). Yep, flings really helped me to GAL...I won't lie.
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(those were the days!) ...friendly, sexual "flings" that didn't last too long. They were great guys, but they weren't men who rocked me to my core like H did. H knew about them and it bothered him, even though his R was much more intense on every level. But he was the one who wanted an open R with me and I figured that what's good for the gander is good for the goose. I don't think I could have done it if I hadn't had my own flings... They gave me a boost and were a good reminder of my attractiveness to men. H was really preoccupied with himself during that time (probably due to grief), and I think that my flings shocked him out of taking me for granted or seeing me as a doormat. At the time I was aware that other men found me attractive, and I had fun times with them (even when we weren't having sex). Yep, flings really helped me to GAL...I won't lie.
