#2: WAH separated from us & I'm on the DBing path

[newmama]

Throughout that whole time, I had this deep gut feeling that H and I were meant to be together and that it was worth the heartache that I was going through. I guess to some it would appear that I was lacking in self-respect during that time. But I didn't see it that way. I knew what I wanted and I gave him to space to do what he had to do so that he could come to me of his own free will. I didn't follow all of the DB rules, but I followed some of them.


That all seems like a million years ago, yet my feelings now seem to parallel how I felt then. I was torn between wanting to share my life with him sooo much, but also having to accept his process and accept that the only possibility of being together required me to be very patient. I had to accept that I had no control over his choices. The grass was definitely greener with the OW, but the drama got old and I think he saw the mother of his children in me.

WHOA....I have been thinking these exact thoughts but hoping the grass gets caught on fire, LOL!

It scares me a bit, thinking of how long I was willing to wait for him before we were even married or had children or any kind of shared life. OTOH, it's not like I spent all my time pining. My life was rich with studies, friends, flirtations, etc.

But interesting how you GALed and distracted yourself and he came back!But no other boyfriends during that time?

No guarantees that he'd pick me again though, given all the baggage that we are now saddled with.

you mean in addition to problems, a shared history, deep attachment and children? The WAHs have got to realize that baggage comes with any relationship...