he can deal with the reality of the decisions he's made. The best way to do that is to leave out the other stuff and just tell him what's going to happen going forward.
Hi Talia,
Is it possible that he might overreact to telling him what will happen? It might wake him up, too, but you mentioned that you don't believe in D. What I'm really suggesting, perhaps wrongly, is that if you feel comfortable telling him what you are doing, he has no right to overreact - he walked. If you are telling him what must happen in the R next, I wonder if he might feel it is a power struggle and get caught up fighting the waves instead of looking at their beauty.
I'd say your situation seems too tough, but your posts for my sitch give me the impression that you are very strong minded, so I'm sure whatever you decide, you will be fully ready to face the good (and painfu)l 'waves'. You should feel proud that you care enough to try to do something about your M.
