WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

Ok.. so I've calmed down some and figure I probably blew it yet again with earlier today's incident...

How do you DB when they are slinging current-life accusations at you and not about the "horrible" marriage they left?

All of the things he's throwing out these days are so off base I don't know how to address them or set boundaries about them... He's so far from rational at the moment.. and I've tried to keep from getting on the phone with him for that reason.. I don't know what to do when he does catch me other than react... and badly... You can't rationalize with them because they're in la-la land.. so what do you do when they are accusing you of things that are off base?

Is it instinct for them to know when we're having a low-detachment day so they can strike? Or am I becoming just as paranoid as he seems to be?

Help!