Aver, I think there is no shame in trying everything, anything as long as you have even a sliver of hope. Or even if your goal is to leave the R on the best possible terms, taking the high road, with dignity & class.
I don't consider myself a very successful DBer, so don't think I can give you good advice on what particular thing to do here. I'm sure you'll get some good input from Pearl & others soon though. Thinking of what's best for you - go back & read Pearl's advice on walking away/starting over vs. staying there.
Being done could mean walking away, from house, whatever, maybe moving. And that might be the most DBing thing you can do. But doing it b/c it is the best thing for you, that can ultimately bring you peace. That is what I'm trying for right now.
H, sorry for the hijack, though kind of related to yours. How are you doing? I'll check back soon. (((((H))))) (((((A))))))
