I just got off the phone -- trying to talk to my S's. It's supposed to be our regular nightly call.
There's a winter storm rolling into our area, as it is across the entire southeast. And yet despite this, or perhaps because of this, xW was furiously trying to pack suitcases and load my S's into the van to venture out -- to drive an hour away east to be with OM.
So she will put our children at risk just because she cannot forgo a weekend away from her adulterous co-conspirator. She claims to be a stellar parent, but our S's take a back seat to her own libido.
Never mind this is another flagrant violation of our consent order.
S9 was impeded from talking to me by xW. She got angry with him for spilling the beans. S5 didn't want to talk at all after that. xW had S9 tell me her excuse was that they wanted to be over at OM's house in the morning to play in the snow there -- said he would have more snow out his way than here. That's a bold face lie -- the weather predictions show just the opposite, as that area is supposed to get more ice and rain.
But that's just her cover story, of course. I know and she knows that she just doesn't want to be snowed in away from her "boyfriend."
The other part of this is that it will jeopardize S9's participation in Scout Sunday. xW has been harping on Scout Sunday for weeks now, sending emails reminding me she wants S9's uniform on hand for that event, as she will be taking him herself. Acts like I am unaware of these things, even when I acknowledge them again and again.
Yesterday she changed her tact again. She stated that she had changed her mind about Scout Sunday at our church. She would take S9 to the Saturday evening service at our church, but she had been "invited by a friend" to attend another church on Sunday -- she and my S's would attend there at this "other church" on that day instead. And thus she redoubled her demands that I send S9's uniform.
When she came to my apartment this morning -- yet again to impose herself on my S's as we're trying to get out the door ourselves -- she made sure to pick up S9's uniform. (She has put not even one cent towards the upkeep and maintenance of his uniform, but because it belongs to S9 she seems to think she has authority over how it's used.)
So, now that she had changed plans again this very evening and I asked about whether S9 was going to be able to go to our church tomorrow (Saturday) at the very least. He paused on the line (assumably to look at his mother), and said it wasn't very likely given the bad weather.
This is upsetting to me. She knows this, but she doesn't care if anyone gets hurt by her self-centered actions, not even our S's and least of all me.
I then apologized to S9. I told him I was sorry he was being put in a difficult position between the two of us, his two parents. I said to S9 to tell his mother that if she was dead-set on going to be with OM tonight that I would be happy to take S9 and S5 off her hands. I know that got dead air, but I said it.
Also, I know this sounds petty of me, but when xW mentioned going to this "other church" by a "friend" the first question that popped into my head was exactly what "faith" does this friend and church actually follow? The Church of Unrepenting Adulterers?
I guess this is going to be yet another time I have to contact the Parenting Coordinator to lodge my complaint and get it on record. I know xW is probably going to twist OM's arm into tying the knot, to make an "honest" woman of her (what a crock!), but this is just so wrong of her, so far beyond the type of person she wanted me and everyone else to think she was.
You know, I understand more and more, with each passing day, just what pain Hosea must have gone through, in such immeasurable patience and silence, whilst his wife Gomer did all those horrible, wretched things. How he could not end up hating her forever is difficult at times for me to grasp -- he was far, far the better person and man of God than I will ever be.
