Thank you all so very much! The support is so very appreciated, because I feel like I am the one who is losing my mind.

Now I know have not been the perfect W, nor could I be. I am in IC for myself now and have been for 2 months to work on me.

My H is a proud person and sees admitting fault as a failure (and let me tell you...in his mind, he can NEVER fail). It would be crushing for him to admit. When he accepted a new job in a new field about 4 years ago, he was on the moon, because they created a brand new position for him. Well after 2 years, the guy who originally offered him the job told him he was at the "bottom of barrel" in terms of performance. He was crushed!

Sometimes I think a WAH experiencing a MLC looks to the very person who loves and cares for them as sort of an "enemy" because over the years, they have bore all their flaws to their mates. We have learned everything about them. They believe we will judge because we do know them so well. So the "enemy analogy is "if I admit that I have a problem, that it will force me to face flaws within myself".

It would then mean that WAH or WAW cannot blame external factors or individuals for their dissatification or unhappiness.

I have gained so much clarity about myself through IC and I am so happy I sought support. I really wish my husband would do the same. -

OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty
Me 44
H 51
T 15 yrs
M 9+ yrs
No Kids
"You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."