Yes, her needs were important. But - 6 months of stress that we were both going through - yeah, I want to be able to count on my partner to be resilient. We went to Hawaii in May, we had a great anniversary celebration in June - and yes, there were times where I was sick (yeah, last year's Valentine's day), I was tired, I needed to rest from work, etc. But for God's sake, say something like "I think we should go to counseling." Suddenly, you lose everything. I don't know, C pointing out that she's lost that loving feeling - I mean - really? How about the kids? How about the commitments? How about riding out the ups and downs? How about love is a decision?
((((Bill)))) I know. I have felt this way too. Trying to understand how the WAS could never say how unhappy they were. And I know some on here disagree, but I do not think an A is acceptable under ANY circumstances. Especially when WA refused to discuss the R before leaving. I just want to offer my support as I don't know that I can give you any good advice. I do agree w Puppy. And I know you have to co-parent w your W and therefore see her. I think you're on the right track to keep GALing, doing your music etc. Try not to read into what your W says (I know, so easy to say, so hard to do!!) Try reading that detachment article - I'm sure you've seen this before: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/ Her instability is creating so much stress for you. Please take care of yourself. ((((())))))
