Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[trytryagain]

OTM, i don't think "who" my H is has ever been hard for me to accept. some of the behaviors that stem from that have been difficult for me. for example, my H is WAY more social and outgoing than i am. i'm fine with that. i'm not fine with being left at a bar on my own while he works the room or him inviting his buddy to come along with us on date night. my H is much more highly motivated to have a successful career than i am. that's fine with me and i'm proud that he's so ambitious. what gets me is him working 8 hours a day in an office, being home for an hour, leaving for his second office (he owns a consulting firm on top of his 9-5 job) and being gone for 3 hours, then coming home at 10pm and being on his iphone until 11:30 or so, checking emails and texting people.

although i wasn't really "getting" that i was asking him to change, i always told my H it wasn't HIM i wanted to change, it was his BEHAVIOR.

are your problems with who your W really "is" or do they lie more in how she "acts?"