Originally Posted By: lostnotgone

This weekend my parents will be in town so there will be no contact this weekend with H. My father is so angry right now... well you know daddy's little girl - how could he do this to his little girl. I am sure he will have issues with my decision to FIGHT for my M.


i know how this feels! i think my family feels like my H is not just separated from me, but from THEM as well. my sister says, how on EARTH could he NOT want to be with you since you are so amazing/smart/beautiful/all the other things your family members insist that you are. my mother wants to know how on earth i could even give him the time of day. my coach told me that as hard as it is, you also have to set boundaries with your FAMILY. i had to tell my mom, "mom, i love you and i so appreciate that you only want the best for me, but this is MY marriage and what i need from you right now is your support, and if you can't give it to me, that's fine, but i don't want to hear about what you think i SHOULD be doing."

but i'm a daddy's girl, too. smile and it kills me to see my dad hurting over this, too, but, if what i think is best for me is to fight for my marriage, i certainly can't control what my family thinks.

hope you have a good, stress-free weekend with your family. it helps if you tell them you need a mental break from talking about your situation!


Me30 H29
M2.5 T5
H moved out 1/23/2010
H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010
...feeling hopeless