When do you request your spouse end an EA?

[newmama]

If I put my foot down, H will most likely choose us. This is going to sound extremely stupid but I hesitate to do it because I don't want to hurt him. What is wrong with me.

1. DANI, if you are so confident he will choose you if you put your foot down, then WHAT IN THE WORLD are you waiting for???????????

2. About you not wanting to hurt him...gently speaking here...THAT CONCERN is what you should talk to your IC about! My gut impression is that it is actually a fear of rejection...you hurt him, he gets mad at you and leaves you.

PLEASE think of the other spouses on here who do not know if their H would choose them vs. divorce and count your blessings--do the right thing, my dear!!!!