My friend came over (which he really likes) and we chatted for a minute before we left. When I came home he asked me, "where did you guys go?" NERVE! Here is this person asking me where I went we he has no accountability for what he does. I almost said "why do you care?" but I didn't. I just answered politely.
okay, this is where you are going wrong.
you WANT him to ask you!!! see, you are not in this as far as I was, my husband wanted NOTHING to do with me for quite some time. I was begging to even get just a look from him. and maybe that's why I was able to act so efficiently, I was in a crisis mode, and that's what you need to do.
so, yes, he is asking you, but you don't get to ask him, I know that seems unfair and rude of him, but you WANT him to be interested in what you are doing!!! that means you are going on the right path and doing the right things. When my H first said that to me, I was SOOOOO happy, because I knew I was getting his attention and he was starting to care what I was doing. and the more he was doing that, the more I knew it was working.
very good that you didn't say "why do you care" that would have been very unproductive. So, when you tell him what you did, you want to say something, but be vague, and then try to change the subject asap. you don't want to lie about it, but you want to be somewhat mysterious, and act like you had a great time!
keep going luv, and I know that you can do this, but keep making the right choices, and the right actions.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
