Self Assured This is man who is confident and believes he is worthy of great things. He is not worried about rejection, never focuses on the “right thing” to say (worried about the reactions of others) and always goes after what the wants. Not in an aggressive, jerky way. But in a confident way.
Calm A calm man is one that can handle tension. This means that if a girl does not call him back he doesn't freak out. He doesn't replay the interaction with the woman over and over and over again to realize where he made mistakes. A calm man does not fall to pieces when confronted with a difficult situation. For example, when a woman throws out a “batshitcrazy test”. A man who panics and gets emotional when faced with this test is not properly handling tension. Therefore he is failing as a man in a woman’s eyes. (women test men all the time)
Collected Collected means, having your act together. You are not overly needy. You don't write 5 paragraph long intro emails (those men who feel writing long a$$ notes, letters & emails to your wives to get your point across, stop! they don't work, women get tired of reading them, don't write them at all, it's a waste of time and you jus set yourself up for writing even more intense notes,letters,and emails because the previous one were apparently not acknowledged, let go of the NEED to do this) and you do not feel the need to instantly respond to texts. You have a life. You have boundaries and you know what you want. Once you have this belief in place and stick to it that energy will come across to women.
Comfortable Have you ever been around someone that you know is comfortable in his or her own skin? It's intimidating right? It makes you more uncomfortable and it makes you want do things for that person or with that person. You feel this way because you want to become this way. Everyone wants to be comfortable. Especially women. If women are with a man who exudes comfort, then they will feel secure, safe and attracted.
Direct Arguablly this is the most important one - it conveys confidence and a man with confidence is an attractive man, a man without confidence is weak, insecure, needy, wussy and downright ugly & smelly. Say you want to ask a woman out (when you get ready for social interaction, ie. dating). Have you ever asked a woman "what are you doing this weekend?"
The question is indirect, open ended, leaves too much room for multiple answers and scenarios, in a nutshell, this isn't direct. That woman could respond with several different answers, one could be: "I am going out with 5 other men who are not you." LOL!
Instead of being indirect, BE DIRECT by saying “I want to take you out this weekend.” This statement is clear, honest and leaves no room for interpretation. Women sense the confidence in a man who is direct this way.
Even if a man gets rejected after being direct, it makes no difference, his world is still intact, his attitude is "her loss, not mine" and on to bigger better things.
Not continuing to ask, beg, plead - that's horribly unattractive.
Men, you can continue to spout logic & reasoning and ask "what about marriage vows, commitment, our children, our family, everything we've done over the years, etc." and the women in your lives will be "that was yesterday, what have you done lately?"
You can't rely on history to bail you out of your problems, you have to rely on getting back to basics, finding yourselves again and becoming MEN again, all very tall order for most of you but definitely not impossible.
Regain your self-esteem and self-respect, I believe you can do it but my belief won't be enough, your actions will decide what happens to you.
