Stuck - I believe with MLCERS it is a different approach then WAS - so I assume that DR has a section on MLCER right?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Dealing with MLC is a lot different than a WAS spouse. Just compare Puppy Dog Tails advice to Jacks...both have been here for awhile and yet their approaches are totally different as are their situations.
The jealousy thing will jump up...the key is Gal'ing. Once you start Gal'ing effectively the jealousy will get less....because you will have your own fun things to do. Be they movies, reading, working out, or joining the guys for a game of flag football...they will be fun things for you.
OP - Thanks I need to pick up one of Michelle's book. Do you recomend DB or DR?
I personally read both of them. The consensus is the DR book is better than the DB book. You should read as much of MWD as you can find. Also this website and the Facebook website for DivorceBusting and Divorce Busters. This is an unpaid commercial for MWD and I hope that the owners of this website do not get mad at me for helping her to make money and promote MWD.
Dealing with MLC is a lot different than a WAS spouse. Just compare Puppy Dog Tails advice to Jacks...both have been here for awhile and yet their approaches are totally different as are their situations.
Lost, I like this, and it is very true..
Just like to add that whether or not she is MLC ...
None of that should make you take your focus off of you and who you want to become right now....
This crap that we go through, it is easy to let it consume us to the point that we feel paralyzed by it, and afraid to take a step without coming here and asking first....
Should I use the Charmin or the Angel Soft?
Do the work for you on yourself....and if you make it real....
The changes will stick and become part of your life. With that comes a trust of self and you can really start living the new you.
So yes, by all means, read and absorb all that you can, just remember to back away enough to allow YOUR growth through this too....
Success is found through your goals, and not your marital status.....
Jack's marriage was saved, this much is true......
But above that.........Jack was saved....
And if you ask him, I'm sure he would agree....
One of the most inspirational people I have ever read from these boards is Bworl. Seek out his posts if you have free time.
The marriage he came here to save is now non-existant..
But the person he became is....very inspirational....
My point is....you will survive this, and not only survive, but thrive....
I am the source of my ...whatever. Happiness, fate, drive, fatherhood. Not someone else. I am not just a husband, it is part of who I am but it does not define me.
I ramble.
About the guys here. I respect many of them. A few are real life friends. I have one hero here, and that is Bworl.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I am not just a husband, it is part of who I am but it does not define me.
You asked Eric "What should I do?"...when you get here in mind and soul...all else falls into place. Jack is there...I am finally there....If you listen, learn, and apply you will too.
Mach 1 / Lost and Jack - Words cannot describe how I feel right now. I am not embarrased to say that you guys have what I want. I want to be the best man that I can be. Fear is paralyzing me right now, mostly the fear of loosing her. This is why I struggle with detaching. I am going to read the DR this weekend and will be checking for your post. If anyone can send me a link to Bworl I would appreciate it. I need to find out how I can attach you guys to my existing FB without everyone being able to see it or does everyone suggest that I set up a new FB?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
