Doing hard time on the MLC chain gang.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

D13 calmed down last night late and I am going to communicate with her therapist to find out better ques to give my D when she is experiencing frustration and anger. (Problem/my action/ solution) and I did not train wreck any progress my W has made.

S9 is going to be sad no matter what happens, I need to be his Rock so he can anchor on. If I want his sitch to have the possibility of his mom coming home then me going off on her is not going to aid in that no matter how right I am about what she is doing that is tearing apart the family. Patience I have. It is especially hard to have that patience when it comes to your children's pain. You want to make it go away instantly and almost anything I would say to my W would just prolong the pain for everyone. I am back in the "deep thoughts" mode here.

Very good to hear you say that. Now just a matter of 'doing'.

I was thinking of letting her read it

You're going to let you wife read it...how enlightened of you. ; ) I'm just poking fun at you, I know what you mean, just sounded a bit controlling.

Just like you won't know what it takes for her to hit bottom, you also have no idea what is going to get past her MLC laser turrets in her crazy cotton filled head. Then again you ALSO do not know what is going to provoke a retalitory strike from the same crazy cotton filled head.

Lets say she reads the book, totally gets WHY you suggested it, and instead of a warm sunny morning, you get a nuclear winter...good job!

On the otherhand I could say nothing and see if he brings it up to her.

Now that idea I like.

which I don't do even though she is IMO the person responsible for the pain we are all in.

Actually...if she is in an MLC, whatever f-tard screwed up her childhood is the real culprit. IMHO a little more 'understanding' might lend weight to your earlier words. You are choosing this suffer this pain by being here, so cast a little stone at yourself.

My only concern here is that she will think that I told him about her dating other men.

If you didn't then do not worry about it. If she asks, tell the truth.