Well on VDAY H is only going to be here in the morning and I doubt he'll do anything for me. So I'm working on my PMA - I'm going to focus on making it a day of loving me instead of keeping tabs on gift giving. If I get any acknowledgement at all from H it would be wonderful but considering things, I won't expect much.
I did notice his wedding ring was off yesterday, I was in a tizzy over a whiny child at the time and flipped out. I confronted him on why he isn't wearing the ring and he reassured me that he takes it off when he goes to the gymn and has done since before we split up. I assume he's telling the truth - first of all, he almost always wears it, secondly, he's at the point where he'd just tell me if he didn't want to wear it and not try to spare my feelings, and thirdly, he said it so calmly and without anger that I did not feel he was speaking out of defensiveness.
I actually felt comforted by his response. I immediately apologized for being paranoid. So this year my VDay gift is him not Ding me, and still wearing his ring I guess.
It sure would be nice to be reassured that no matter what our troubles, he still loves me, but I'm going to reassure myself, self soother.
