CityGirl = very wise. The WAS has already compartmentalized the end of the R or M, so the OP is completely and totally acceptable in their own mind. Like my wife said once, "we are seperated, it is none of your business." Even though we are still in the same house and legally married, her point of turning it off was when she moved into the den. It sure seems like they will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to justify their "logic". They are lost, confused and very damaged and hurt.
