I'm planning on telling her that I'm going home, and when i say home I mean my house. i have no problem with her staying, if she decides to leave that's on her. we'll see what comes out of counseling, because I plan to start that right away. we either see if we can fix this or if we need to move on.
When you tell her this you are actually seeking her approval, another thing that a strong confident man doesn't need to do. You make a decision for what's best for you and your kids and that means going home and being home and living at home, that's what is best for you and your kids. Allow your wife to do what she wants to do, she isn't asking for your approval to do what she's doing, you don't need to ask her or tell her what you will be doing, YOU JUST NEED TO DO IT.
Make a decision, and follow through, very attractive, very assertive, very masculine and very much the opposite from you based on the vibe I'm getting.
When you get home you just live at home, you don't ask for permission. If she asks what your plans are, then you can tell her this:
"I've decided I'm not moving out, this is my home. If you have a problem with this and feel you need to leave, I won't stand in your way and I won't beg you to stay. Being home and living in my home is what's best for me & my kids regardless of what happens between you and me."
