As crazy as this sounds I have come to the realization that some WAS really and truly believe (in their own twisted minds) that they do not feel like they are having an affair because in their own mind they decided their marriage will no longer be.
My H is very much the same way. The word "affair" sets him off in a terrible way and as sick as this sounds I think he has convinced himself he has NOT had an affair but rather started a new R since he decided our M was over.
I am not saying this is right, it is rather nuts and so very "out there" but I am starting to think when somebody (somebody = WAS) wants to convince themselves of something they can. The scary part is I think they actually start to believe it!
