Hey folks,,

Feeling very much like this is a done deal.. I wanted to have otherwise but not looking very likely..

As a result, I have found myself being a bit passive aggressive around W at the home. I have made comments about her "boyfriend", much to her denial and thats about it.. Most conversations although very brief usually end up with her telling me she has to contact her lawyer; if the topic turns to her dislike, W will say she feels threatened and "does she want me for her to call the police".. Total threats and manipulation.

On the upside, my lawyer suggested that she move out; her lawyer surprisingly has as well, so the W is apartment hunting.

Finally W lawyer got the papers to court to be filed last Friday,,, after having been drawn up on 12/30.. even with the holidays, almost 6 weeks is pretty damn long. People in the know tell me it's probably because W had't paid her lawyer enough.. I agree, her funds are minimal..

Temporary Court hearing next thursday.. we'll see.. Her parents come into town several days after... parents want to speak with both of us....

My question for the Panel here,,, Her Father, (intelligent, common sense, whom I admire and trust)wants to sit down with both of us to talk.... I am confident about affair between the W and OM.. Would a good approach to take be to say "if W doesn't disclose/acknowledge the affair, there is nothing for me to discuss" and then just leave?

W is still in denial, My impression is that that W is holding out for the D at the end so she won't have to tell me/ disclose it..

She can just brush it under the rug and be done, without any admission from her..

FWIW: This D diet is fanatstic, down to 12% body fat!


DD

H50
W44
M17 yrs
S15
D11
D10
Bomb 4/09
Trial separation/moved out 9/09
Moved back in 12/29/09