I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[flowmom]

Talia, I hope I can ask this in your thread without it being a hijack...

This:

I am SOOOOO grateful for the things I have resolved about myself during this time. I NEVER would have come this far if H hadn't walked out and forced me to take a hard look at myself. I am 10X better as a person than I was. I . . . I WILL BE a fantastic partner for someone, someday.

Sounds so much more powerful than this:

I know you have some legitimate complaints about my role in the dysfunction of our marriage. I acknowledge that, and as you know, have been dealing with my issues. I believe in time you could have seen that those changes are for real.. I would have been willing to put in some effort to see if this marriage can be saved.

and conveys essentially the same thing.

Any thoughts on how to communicate in a less formal way? I find that when I'm stressed, my written or verbal communication gets really formal like the second version above. My sister has identified this as a communication problem that I have with H. It's like my mind can't find the words to say it in a "real" way. Or maybe I think if I communicate in a formal way, my words can't be misconstrued?