I have definitely had trouble with the boundaries and I think that is the Nice Guy coming out in me. It is fear plain and simple. Last night was the first time that I was able to gather the courage to say that this isn't working for ME. Based on what went down, I know I am going to need a lot more courage moving forward.
Yeah, the trust is going to be much harder now. After I originally confronted, she said that "you don't have to worry about me and I think we are moving in the right direction". Since then, things have felt like they were improving but then this. I am at a loss as to what my next steps are.
I agree that there can be no R until he is gone. When she brought up MC last night, I told her as much. I have made myself available to her because I was trying to show positivity and keep the path back somewhat smooth. She brought up last night that she still feels hurt over what she thought was a lack of physical interest on my part so i think you are right that she is hurt and confused.
She still wants to do the fun things we had planned for this weekend and I don't quite know what I should do. Should I pull back and just say that I need sone space to think right now? I don't want to push her away (fear talking) but I don't want toencourage cake eating either.
