First of all, I have to say how nice it is that all of you take time to post to me. I have been away for awhile, and there are so many new names left in the wake of a marriage gone bad.

Well, STBXW and her attorney are refusing to provide her 401K and Social Security statements so that we can figure out what portion of my two pensions she’s “entitled” to. Her attorney says there is a Supreme Court decision re: Social Security benefits…blah, blah, blah, blah……………….

She will take this to the wire. Reminds me of the old line from Vietnam news footage: “We had to destroy the village to save it!” I agree that a court will most likely award her less than she is being offered now.

She scoffed at both the mediator’s and the Special Master’s offers, saying she couldn’t “possibly live on those insulting figures!” Sure, if you intend on keeping the $550,000 house and not changing your lifestyle. Roger. Got it!

For the record, I showed up at 7:30 at STBXs residence and signed the worksheet for S11. D17 asked for $258 today to take Advanced Placement Exams. I told her to ask STBX if she would pay half. If she says no, I told D17, “I’ll pay it all”. I don’t care. I don’t need anything from STBX. I paid for a $60 field trip last week, and $50 in medication yesterday. I want NOTHING from STBX.

Unfortunately, crazy STBX has taken a toll on my relationship with Gym Woman. She didn’t think I should sign S11’s assignment, because it looked like STBX was being controlling. I told her I would contact the school, but changed my mind and just signed the paper. STBX was taking hostages, and I wanted nothing to do with it. I didn’t tell Gym Woman I was going to sign the paper, and I probably should have just told her in the beginning that I disagreed with her assessment. When she asked, if I had signed it, I told her the truth. (It’s never the act; it’s the cover up that gets you in trouble) She felt that by not telling her, it was an act of omission on my part, and I get that.

I told her that I should have had the courage to confront her and tell her I disagreed with her assessment at the beginning. I was so used to just not wanting any confrontation with STBX when we were together, I would have done anything to keep the peace. Being direct and candid can be helpful when dealing with a rational person like Gym Woman. She is a smart woman, but she’s in a tough situation, and I’d be at the end of my rope if I was in her place. It’s tough to convince her that I’m doing stuff for my kids, not to please STBX, but she thinks that STBX lives by the motto “Negative attention is better than no attention at all”.

She has been divorced for 9 years, and this stupid behavior is so behind her.

I explained to her that I signed the paper, because I didn’t want my son to have to be totally stressed out, going to school, waiting for me to contact the school and explain why the paper wasn’t signed.

Life isn’t easy!

PS I feel like a DB BB parasite, taking, but never posting to you guys!