Ah rocked ... you sound already over the blip so I'll just add this.

Good things, bad things, everyday things are going to happen to OP in all our sitches. It's not about karma, it's not about fairness, it's not even about your feelings ... coz guess what? It's not about you at all. That's right, OP is out of your collective lives.

Easier said than done of course, and you know what I mean when i say I struggle with it too. But aside from being something to be grateful for, it's just a reality one should happily embrace!

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.