Thanks Gardener. And, I agree we seem to be in the same spot more and more. And, we will both be just fine and very happy with time.
Had a great dinner last night with a couple of friends (H and W). I used to play a lot of golf together. I spotted his M problems early on. And his drinking too much. The H is on his 3rd M.
Didn't know what to expect when I met them for dinner. But, miraculously, he proceeded to tell me how he had been on a remarkably similar path as me - severly curtailed his drinking, has renewed his relationship with God, and has recognized the problems in his M and he and his W were working on those. This is the last thing I expected to hear when I met them for dinner, but I am really proud of them and very happy for them. And a tinge jealous that his W didn't run from her problems, instead, choosing to fight for her M.
I am constantly amazed (and I shouldn't be) at how God works in peoples' lives. And examples like last night make me very happy and strengthen my faith in God and people.
This morning, as a treat (really for me), I decided to take the kids to school rather than having them ride the bus. They were excited, and we joked the entire trip to school. They are truly wonderful.
My PMA is good. Still focusing on the positive that lies ahead. My friends last night, mostly the H, reminded me to stay open to the possibility W could come back. I told him I was open to that, but she has to choose to walk through that door. I no longer stand at the threshold waiting for her. I am moving forward with my life while remaining open to working on the M. But, at this point, I have "done the work" on me and continue to do so. W, not so much. And only SHE can do that.
