me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Los & MB Lost what is the book that has been most helpful? I'm always looking for suggestions. I agree knowledge is power!
Read Divorce Busting - good book - gets you thinking. When I first read it I thought Michele had been sneaking into my house! WOW... gave me the push I needed to get started.
Reading "Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage" now. Great book - really gives you exercises to do - get a notebook/journal and do them! don't skip over anything - once you read the to Step 6 - go back to the Step 4!
Have "Getting Through to the Man You Love: The No-Nonsense, No-Nagging Guide for Women"
Good luck!
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
Control. If you're happy and looking cute, then clearly you don't need him all that much. You are moving on, and that isn't what H. expects. Maybe you won't just stick around in case R w/OW doesn't pan out. Maybe, just maybe, you'll go find yourself somebody new.
As for the sad & crying, it's cause you're being a good girl, sitting in the corner, waiting for daddy to come give you some attention.
I just wrote a journal entry about this very topic earlier today.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
Had to call H this morning and let him know that D13 is sick again. It was a short call - he sounded excited about some new training at work - I told him that sounded great. Took the oppt to say I know you busy next week with the training and that I know next week is not good for him but I would like to go to breakfast sometime. Asked him to give me a call about it and he said " okay will do" with some excitement in his voice. It was not a shut down.
Kept it short and keeping my expectation to a minimum. Baby steps right!!
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
I put myself out there - now to be patient and see what happens - and I am not a real patient person. Trying hard not to be the "fix-it" person.
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
