Gardener, i really appreciate the thought, but I dont know if it's the best fit here. I have never had a problem addressing the things that needed to be addressed. If W did something that was hurtful to me, I was quick to talk about it. I always kept it calm, told her how it made me feel, and tried very hard to be considerate of her and her feelings and asked that she do the same in return.
What I got in return was her accusing me of trying to "control" her actions. Well...I guess I was. I was hoping that she would adjust her behavior away from things that were hurtful to me.
Addressing any of these things now would just be doing more of what doesn't work. If the time ever seems right we can address it then. If not, I think I just need to vent and let it go.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
