In a way it is their way of keeping a foot in the door, but it isn’t as simple as that unfortunately. It falls under the category of they don’t want us, but the don’t want anyone else to want us either. Most of them keep some sort of contact and try to maintain some sort of control. Through kids, finances, any way that they can.
I know it seems contradictory. I know it seems crazy. That is an earmark of MLC. It can make us crazy on every level because we never know which way is up. That is why the detatchment is important. To help you get to a place where the things that he does just become things that he does.
FB, definitely let us know. I am one of the unfindable because my H was an incredible snooper, still is I suspect. I am at the point where I want him to know nothing about my life unless it is something I choose to tell him. Which means he knows only anything that pertains to his being a father. Other than that, well, this is my life.
Anyway, smile, try to have a good day.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
