Back here, for the second time... #69

[awest1217]

I am so sorry to hear about your dad! You definitely have the right perspective. Right now you need to be with your family and take time together. It seems that H has been understanding through this part so I believe that as needed if you let him know what you need, he will step up. I just caution you to take some time for you. I understand the concern for everyone in the family, but make sure you have someone to go to as well. Someone to help you.

I went through a similar situation last year when my grandpa committed suicide. It was right at the beginning of OW and H spent most of his time with her; talking, texting, even seeing her. Instead of taking time for me, I took care of S, my family, and was preoccupied with H and OW so I never really grieved. It has taken a toll on me.

You however have your priorities straight, but just take some time to make sure you get supported as well. I am so sorry and my prayers are with you.